How to Plan a Destination Wedding with Children: A Guide for Parents

These days, many couples are planning their destination weddings with a few extra VIPs in mind: their children. Whether you’re tying the knot after welcoming a little one, blending families with kids from previous relationships, or finally taking that long-awaited step as parents, this wedding is about more than just two people. And that’s something to celebrate! Planning a destination wedding with children included is deeply meaningful, but it has its own logistical hurdles. Little ones especially bring their own kind of magic, but also nap schedules and the occasional meltdown. Still, planning your day with them in mind can make the experience even more memorable (for you and for them!)

As we do with any planning logistics, the Beaches Weddings team is here to help you design a celebration that works for your whole family. In this guide, we’ll explore how to choose the right destination, ways to include your kids in the ceremony, what to think about before and after the big day, and how to balance grown-up romance with family fun. 

What Is a Destination Wedding (When You’ve Got Kids)?

A destination wedding is typically a ceremony and reception held somewhere away from home. That could mean another country, but it can also be another city or state. Many destination weddings take place in a captivating, vacation-worthy location, but when you’re planning a destination wedding with children (especially your own), the focus shifts a bit. It’s not just about finding the dreamiest backdrop. It’s about creating a joyful, kid-inclusive experience that feels just as special for them as it does for you.

One key difference with destination weddings is that they usually stretch across multiple days. Instead of planning a party, you’re planning a trip that blends milestone memories, travel adventures, and family bonding time. A weekend wedding will usually contain multiple events, such as a welcome dinner, group activity, and post-wedding brunch. Having kids on board means thinking extra carefully about where you’ll go, what kind of support you’ll have on the ground, and how to keep things running smoothly without losing the magic. You may also need to build in more quiet moments in between festivities so that your child can rest.

That’s where the Caribbean truly shines. The rhythm of island life is relaxed, we’re famously welcoming to families, and the pace suits little legs and big feelings. At Beaches Resorts, you have all the amenities you need, from dedicated kids’ clubs to family-style suites and attentive staff. And we’ve got the planning covered so you can enjoy stepping away from everyday routines and soaking up time together.

Are Children Invited to a Destination Wedding?

Whether or not to invite children is one of the first big decisions couples face, wherever you’re exchanging vows. For destination weddings, there’s an extra layer of complexity. On the one hand, having kids there brings extra joy, spontaneity, and hilarious dance moves. On the other, it adds logistical layers from bedtimes to babysitters and may shift the tone of your celebration. The decision on whether to have a destination wedding with children really comes down to your vision, your venue, and your guest list. Going adults-only can make for a more sophisticated, grown-up vibe. But when kids are part of the plan, especially at family-friendly Beaches Resorts, it can create an atmosphere that’s playful, inclusive, and full of life. And it may also mean more of your guests can RSVP yes!

It's important to keep in mind if you opt for a no-kids policy (aside from your own), some guests with children may not be able to make the trip, and that’s okay. You can still celebrate with them back home, maybe with a post-wedding BBQ, beach day, or casual catch-up that keeps them feeling included, even if they missed the main event.

Can I Have Just My Own Kids at My Wedding?

Yes, you can choose to have only your own children at your destination wedding. If you’re planning a destination wedding as a family unit, it’s natural to want your kids right there with you while still keeping the event small. You may also choose to only have them attend for part of the day.

The key is to be clear and consistent when informing others. If you’re making an exception for your own children but not inviting others, make that distinction gently but firmly upfront. You can do this in person or with a simple line on the invitation. For example: “We’re keeping our celebration small and intimate, with only our own children present.” If guests are disappointed, that’s okay too. What matters is that your choice reflects your priorities as a couple and a family.

That said, choosing a venue like Beaches Resorts that’s made for families can make it easier to widen the circle if you want to. With spacious suites, kids’ activities, and trained staff who make everyone feel at home, it takes the stress out of inviting other families. Your kids may also appreciate having younger company.

How to Include Your Own Kids in the Ceremony

Including your children in the wedding itself is a beautiful way to honor your journey as a family. It helps children feel part of the moment, rather than observers on the sidelines. (And let’s be honest, those little suits, flower crowns, and emotional vows often steal the show in the best possible way!) However, it’s important to approach their involvement with sensitivity, especially for blended families. Acknowledge the emotions that may come with change and give them space to be part of the process in a way that feels right for them. Let them opt in, and make sure the language in your vows includes them gently but sincerely, whether or not they’re part of the vows.

Here are some practical and age-appropriate ways to include them:
•            Toddlers and little ones: Keep it sweet and simple. Petal tossing, ring bearing (with a grown-up guiding hand), or walking you down the aisle can all be lovely roles. And if they wander off mid-ceremony or decide they’d rather sit in the sand, just roll with it. That’s part of the charm.
•            Older kids and teens: Invite them into more meaningful moments, like doing a reading, helping officiate, or standing beside you during vows. Family vow exchanges or unity rituals like a sand ceremony can symbolize the blending of your lives in a way that feels deeply personal.

Don’t underestimate the power of small details either. Letting kids choose a song for the reception, taste-test the cake, or show off a talent gives them ownership and pride. A first look moment or special outfit can also help them feel special.

Planning Tips for a Destination Wedding with Children

Hosting a destination wedding with children included comes with its own unique rhythm. To keep everyone happy (including yourselves), you’ll want to approach your day with flexibility, good humor, and (most importantly!) a solid plan. These top tips will help you stay organized and stress-free.

Build your timeline around real life

Kids don’t suddenly become less themselves just because it’s a wedding day. So lean into their natural rhythms. Schedule the ceremony for a time when they are usually at their best (hint: it’s rarely sunset). Allow for downtime, rest breaks, and even some quiet screen time if that’s what keeps the peace between events.

Assign a helper who’s not you

Whether it’s a grandparent, godparent, trusted friend, or staff member, having someone to keep an eye on the kids means you can focus on your vows, rather than who needs more sunscreen. At Beaches Resorts, our professional childcare specialists have got you covered, no matter the age group. We are also proud to offer families with children with autism and other special needs specialized services.

Pick a venue that does the heavy lifting

All-inclusive resorts are a win for parent-planners, but not all are created equal. Beaches Resorts' approach means family suites with space to spread out, kids’ clubs that are actually fun, and a team that genuinely loves looking after families so you can relax knowing everyone’s needs are covered.

Keep the vibe low-pressure

Some things might go a little sideways, and that’s okay. Your child might refuse to wear their shoes, or your first dance might include an impromptu third partner. The beauty of destination weddings is that they’re naturally more relaxed. Embrace it! Those unplanned moments often become the ones you treasure most.

The Pre- and Post-Wedding Experience

One of the biggest advantages of a destination wedding with your children is that you get to enjoy more than just a single day together. It’s a whole shared adventure! The time before and after the ceremony becomes part of the celebration, giving you space to create lasting memories beyond the vows and photos.

Think beyond the wedding day

Arrive a day or two early if you can. It gives everyone time to settle in, explore, and adjust to the new setting, especially younger kids. Let them discover the beach, get familiar with the Kids Club, and maybe even pick out a spot for family ice cream breaks. The more at home they feel, the smoother the wedding day will go.

Build in moments just for your family

Your wedding is about connection, so take advantage of your surroundings. At Beaches Resorts, you can book a private family beach picnic, go snorkelling in clear-blue waters, or enjoy a sunset sail with your closest crew.

Don’t skip the honeymoon feeling

Just because your kids are there doesn’t mean you can’t sneak in some romance. With onsite childcare and activities to keep little ones happily occupied, you and your partner can still enjoy spa treatments, candlelit dinners, or a quiet cocktail under the stars. Beaches Resorts’ thoughtful balance of family fun and grown-up escapes means nobody gets left out, including you!

Capture the full story

Finally, remember to document not just the ceremony, but the entire trip. From sandy giggles to airport high-fives, this is your first adventure as a married family. You could even arrange a beach photoshoot before or after the big day.

Top 8 Destinations for a Wedding with Kids

There’s no shortage of beautiful places to say “I do,” but some are better than others when planning a destination wedding with children. Here are eight standout destinations to consider:

1. Turks & Caicos

Known for its powder-soft beaches and calm turquoise waters, it’s a dream for young swimmers and snorkelers. Grace Bay is regularly ranked the best beach in the world, and Beaches Turks & Caicos comes with a waterpark, kids club, and plenty of parent-friendly perks.

2. Jamaica

Warm-hearted and incredibly welcoming to families. Beaches Negril sits on iconic Seven Mile Beach, where the good vibes flow as easily as the fresh fruit smoothies.

3. Mexico

A go-to for many reasons: easy flights and vibrant culture. Great if you’re looking for variety, from beachfront ceremonies to cenote adventures.

4. South Florida

Ideal for shorter travel times, especially if your guest list includes older relatives or new parents. Think beachy vibes without the long-haul flight.

5. Hawaii

Epic landscapes, rich culture, and unforgettable excursions. A wonderful option if you’re West Coast–based or want a more adventurous, outdoorsy feel.

6. Portugal

Charming, sun-drenched, and welcoming. Family-friendly beaches and relaxed cities like Lisbon or the Algarve offer great food, gentle waves, and kid-friendly vibes.

7. Greek Islands

Less crowded than Santorini or Mykonos, Naxos especially is a gem for families. Think golden beaches, friendly tavernas, and slow-paced island life.

8. New Orleans

Unexpected but magical, especially for blended families who want a celebration with soul. Live music, iconic food, and walkable charm make it a cultural favorite with flair.

Planning a wedding with your children by your side adds a layer of depth and connection that can’t be replicated. Whether you’re blending families, renewing vows, or celebrating a long-awaited step in your love story, including your kids in the celebration makes it all the more meaningful. And with a resort like Beaches Turks & Caicos or Beaches Negril that understands the rhythms of family life, you can turn a milestone into a shared adventure.

If you’re planning a destination wedding with your kids, we’d love to help you create something unforgettable. Visit our inquiry page, fill in the form, and let’s turn your vision into a celebration full of love, laughter, and family fun.